Opps I did it again…

Like a couple of weeks ago, it’s been a pretty harrowing one over here with the awful tragedy of the Grenfell Tower fire dominating which in so many ways it demands as much as needs to to get to bottom of just how it was the entire tower block was on fire in minutes.

With all of that -and  if you’ve seen the pictures you’ll understand – affecting my mind, I’ve been relying a lot on age regression to cope with the emotions as the adult side of struggles badly with them, being in daily contact with my BFF we both kinda forgot the time yesterday and I certainly was late getting bed and if that wasn’t enough I was caught out dozing off this morning as skipped sleep.


Well, I knew I had it coming and I’ve been given a lecture plus a paddling for it which somehow feels worse when you’re half asleep and after I’ve finished this I have to hand my computer over and sleep thought the day.

The bottom line is, I own this because I failed to take care of my needs so I really can’t argue with how this has been handled.

Okay over and out (sobs)

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The Elephant in the room

There’s lovely idiom one that works in both North American and British English that describes a situation I feel the need badly to get off my chest and it applies to what I’m about, this blog’s about and “That Thing We Do”.


It’s that expression for that thing we can see, that we know is there and yet we seem so reluctant to accept is sharing the spaces we are in and will always try snuck right back through the door.

We all know there is such a thing as a ‘romance’ around spanking, that keeping things nice and polite some people do get off on reading about spanking experiences, especially the sort that give detailed descriptions of how the persons were dressed, how each and every stroke was delivered with glistening detail to how their bottom looked. Indeed there is quite a market for such ‘adult’ reading material whatever you may think either of its quality or or appropriateness  but if you are a place about discussing spanking as both a need and as a therapy for your individual needs (which I openly admit to), you may feel there is a point where such a place might become focused on just the sharing of such spanking romances.

But wait, there is something more a very big elephant, it truly concerns me and it is  this: You may have as I do a past in childhood that featured spanking to which again I do not deny but while on a site to mention this as it may inform say your spanking position preferences might appear to be one thing it can lead to two dangerous areas on what are ADULT 18+ sites.

The first is you soon -and we have seen it before – get a drive by attack of people who are writing accounts that may be ‘stories’ of children but more worrying may be actual accounts of minor spanking as entertainment for adults which comes close to the fetishing even sexual fetishing of children.

My name may well be Jo, a Middle/little with developmental disabilities but I’m not that stoopid to see this is really dangerous and crossing a line when it comes not just to children’s welfare but putting a site and ALL it’s members at risk of legal action.  Anyone seriously want to be investigated with no say in the matter , phones and computer paraphernalia confiscated ???

The other area is to allow discussion of the spanking of minors too which we all probably have points of view clearly leads the outsider to feel we ARE about the spanking of children when we are not as we ARE an ADULT 18+ site  as why given we’re not a parenting site we have no business getting involved in.

None of this should of itself impinge of people privately talking about their childhoods that may of included  spanking or if we’re parents or relations directly involved with our own child discussing IN THE APPROPRIATE PLACES such topics if permitted.

That is why I feel any adult spanking site needs to consider and apply proper rules for our own well-being and protection as well as that of minors.


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In case you all were wondering as to what happened to last weeks blog, the short answer was the previous Monday’s terrorism bombing had really pushed my mind  right back to how those events during my childhood had really messed me up and I was stuck there cos that’s when my whole world innocently playing ended end I starting having issues with social anxiety, forever expecting every time my folk were in the cities, they’d never ever come to me when I was at Grandma’s as incidents and threats were coming in on the radio and tv.

I’m still somewhat out of it to be honest which is also why my forum activity has been lower than normal, struggling to find the enthusiasm for more grown up activities when all I feel like doing is cuddling up to my stuffies.

I also have spend some time trying to play with my dolls on the basis that regressed time I’m in would benefit from something that both calms me down and would through play help me deal with my emotions better.

With any luck, I feel more up to talking about more regular things on here by next week.

Regards Jo.

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In for the count?

Unlike perhaps a good number of people today, I did grow up in the era that did allow for spanking in such settings as schools where it was seen pretty much as the natural consequence for breaking the rules and like every generation before and since there always is a point several of you start to get a little antsy, a little like starting a rumble in the classroom or sports field having been ever so meek and mild for a good period of time.

The reason I kind of bring that up isn’t to discuss the pros and cons but cos I’m rather curious about where that whole notion of counting ones licks really comes from as nobody in my schools or even in homes, ever had the “One. Thank you Miss, Two than you Miss” etc counting routine in spanking. You were lucky if you told how many you were to be given before hand.

Rather like bare bottom spanking in schools which never happened at co-ed schools in the classroom but played out in role plays and photo shoots, sometimes I wonder if we’re creating a spanking mythology, that as enjoyable (if a well warmed bottom can be described as such) as it is has no part in the realities and the recreation thereof in either a role playing setting or in an age regression with spanking life as lived?

The one thing around when people give me the spankings I need for my attitudes and behaviour I like the most is that they never tell me how many, only how and when I will be so at the point of spanking my focus is on what I did plus the pain being delivered to my bottom as the consequence for my actions until they determine it has sunk in.

I find that works much better at maintaining the connection between action and consequence so I do learn to modify those behaviours and attitudes. Any thoughts?

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I’m Jo and I’m Ticked Off


The week here starts with a couple of irritants of which the first is when you read a comment on a blog that’s to tell people who to block saying something like “they seem to follow all the rules-so to speak-but I noticed they wrote something about age regression” and the blog owner writes that they ought to be suspicious as it it is a way of getting minors into kink, can you blame me for feeling like exploding?

Thing is in the first instance, except for talking about spanking and the use of 18+ spanking images from well known adult service photo and video producers, everything else on that Tumblr which is flagged as NSFW, no minors  allowed is just age regression and in the context I talk about isn’t say bdsm adult power exchange or sex at all.

Second thing is it really makes me puke as someone who is both asexual and also had a career in child protection that someone who has no idea about my life can even publicly speculate that I post it to attract minors and if I didn’t I’d be into bdsm when it is not visible to minors and fully conforms to Tumblrs TOC. How dare YOU view my life based on your kinks as speculate that’s what it’s about just cos I don’t follow your lifestyles ideas and especially when I have posted expressly that I don’t agree with minors involved in adult kink spaces such as bdsm and that I’d report them. They are so wrapped around protecting their kink they’d besmirch my character to save their own image.

I’m sticking two fingers up at them (and believe me I can think of other places to put them) and if that is what your community really is like, well I’m mighty glad I never shared a space with it.

Second thing, same site because I belong to one age regression community totally SFW, minor safe nada another group say because I use a little word like ‘little’ we’re so kink that I can’t join disability groups for developmentally disabled regressors thinking somehow I’m gonna lead people to Miss Whiplash and Super Sexy Games as if I’m even interested in that stuff. Groups that might even benefit me in learning to handle my disabilities better. Honestly this stuff really ticks me off big time no wonder I need maintenance spankings at times!

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What I did although I was Pawley

You could call this the eventually edition cos I felt short of several spoons for most of this week, having to cut back on the contributions I usually make to several sites to ensure those things that do matter more to me not least my own well being are attended too.

As unfortunately one gets used to at anywhere you mention spanking you get people messaging you wanting to be that person with the paddle with no real emotional rapport just a girls butt to bruise and redden when they’re not wanting sexual stuff of which and more is explained on a About Me profile that I’m just not into or gonna hook up with you over.

It’s a pity cos there are some nice intelligent people trying to understand how spanking, being a little and coping with my disabilities is like as a package although I feel more comfortable at SN and more closer to people.

In a round about way I didn’t do too much with being off colour but did make a remarked on post about may day on my regular sfw blog, talked about how disability issues are so off the agenda in Great Britain’s General Election on Jo’s Dorm blog (and have a super little post due for Wednesday!) and have been tidying up my original big blog which until later last year had been dormant.

Part of that was how I’ve changed, that rather than trying on a blog form to impersonate the full adult person I’m not, I’m just being me open about how my life is, saying more or less follow if you’re interested on my Sfw littles on or just move on so I was struggle to say a reason to use it.

In effect it was parked because the stuff that as was not so little such as current affairs and the like just wasn’t on my horizon but as over the year not least after that European Union referendum I needed a place to process and dump that stuff so it didn’t trouble in the way it had before  making me mentally ill so I reactiviated it coming more as that lower high school kid who knew and talked about what was in the news rather playing roles dead centre to it. I decide to be brave and come out about being a little/middle on it too.

That about from my BFF keeping an eye on me  is what I have been working, tidying it up as I’d left it a bit messy in places with incomplete entries and just bits of random stuff so seeing I am growing up a bit I can learn to apply some discipline to keeping my more serious blog tidy in much the same I would of been expected to hand in well put together project back then.

I may of been short on spoons but I did get some good stuff  done!

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Joanne’s Dorm and the need for discipline

It’s been a strange week of encountering different people at differing places so you start that oh so nerve wracking introduction business you though you had sorted for a few months going through the motions of explaining yourself and your life all over again.

On the other hand my BFF and I’s idea of having on our Age Regression with spanking tumblr a B.Y.F, that’s for those who don’t speak fluent Tumblrese a Before You Follow page where we say what sorts of people we don’t to follow or interact in any way, shape or form seems to have helped as we we getting lots of people who post sexually explicit pictures or sexual comment on our nonsexual posts and just generally disrespecting boundaries, is working well. We might be the only spanking connected tumblrs with them!

Then there was an interesting person from the UK who was following some posts on Similar Worlds and talking about them, I’m not on their all the time and my Caregivers rules are no photos to others so I don’t have instagrams and that but they made some good points that tie in with something else I did last week.


“Your individual discipline matters. Always.” was not something I was kind of expecting although I do appreciate honest feedback if I write about something I have done or how someone has chosen to deal with what I did because it is what I need to have and to make an appropriate adjustment to in order to grow up even within my own limits.

You see, that takes us on to why it is I’ve redone the blogger jokitten.com blog which was originally started in the days of my time on Experience Project and around the point when additional guidance, structure and the use of spanking on me came in because in reality it’s less a “spanking blog” but more a blog about discipline including learning to master your own feelings and emotions as well as about the guidance I am given and where needed traditional corporal punishment to cause me to think more about my actions and attitudes and to change them.

It wasn’t so much Punishment that I needed and do need but discipline – the act of training me up to be more mature, to think more about what I do before I do it and to assume greater personal responsibility backed up with spanking. Writing about my feelings does help in making me more aware of them so I can better master them, learning to make a good response even in a trying situation.

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They were right to say “Discipline is key” and so the purpose of that blog is to help me in the wider sense become more disciplined not just when I mess up and I have to be honest and say I need to be but also to become more self disciplined in my attitude and behaviour in myself and in my social interaction with others by talking about what I have done, how I feel, what other people feel about me and how they have dealt with it.

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